You may say – I never liked the way my elders lived there life at home, that’s why I am staying separate. But if you analyze it properly you learnt the way of life as you parents thought you but you as an individual felt that’s not the correct way so moved away form that. Means your experience or in scientific language learned reflexes says that the mode of life you experienced needs change so you do the things differently or in different direction. so you are doing it that way you want.

So you understood your self in your childhood in a subconscious state but never understood your self in a conscious state as an adult that’s the major factor for your failure to understand your self. It may look small for you at this moment but that’s not the end of the story; its the beginning for the sad story where you live your every day life in sorrow and fail to communicate to the beautiful world that your also beautiful creation of god as others are.

This argument never ends but I will try to write how to put effort to understand your self shortly in this blog. Till then take care.

Ok!! they are here

1. Love
2. Knowledge
3. Money
4. Power

This life is full of materials which are in one or the other way required to lead life in good way. But think about these words you will be amazed how dull this life without these. But unfortunately these words what they mean to each one of us is totally different, that’s why it also carry different meaning and weightage as per situation you and me are in.

As I mentioned earlier these things are very difficult to get in there purest forms. If you can get these then you can be rest assured that your life is near salvation point. Which you may not want to meet so early because you are enjoying the real beauty of these four words in their purest forms.

Be warned while playing with these words and try to be slightly away from their purest form.

happy reading and life

Are you doing it day in day out because your boss is not recognizing your work work and not even ready to say he or she has this work or your subordinates not listening to your command?

Take it easy because you are not achieving anything by shouting, except asking for unwanted enemies, like coronary artery disease , hypertension and other lifestyle disorder’s entry into your life.

If you really think about shouting in real sense, you are not going to achieve anything by do it. Because the things need to be done are need to be done. Until and unless the person doing is not convinced that the work has to be done he or she will not be doing the same, in other words your losing your temperament  and losing friends that’s it nothing else.

As explained earlier if you don’t want those enemies at your door step kindly just stop shouting at your work place or at home and just see in 1 week how much peace of mind you will get and how much productivity increases.

Take care, keep smiling and stop shouting.

Life becomes sorrowful or stressful depending what we do or what we think. But same things came give better results or outputs if you are prepared for it. Everyone knows that everyone cannot be prepared for every thing in ones life time, but every one is worried about the outcome of every thing hey come across.

So simple formula for happier life goes this way.

Step one
Stop thinking about the things where you cannot do anything – like rain, sunrise, temp outside your home or office etc or for that matter somebody else’s action

Step two
Plan for long term and act for short term – Means plan for few years not for life and act for short terms means days not minutes. Do all your work this way

Step Three
Prepare for the worst outcome and get ready for best outcome. Meaning prepare an alternate plan if your action brings in a worst thing and plan for celebration if you get max out of your action.

Step four
When compromise on your family or personal life for others work until it is life saving or world saving action

Step Five
Never give away every thing to others in anticipation – it is applicable to every aspect of life, let it be money secrets, property, knowledge

Step Six
Prepare for Securing all you have in unfortunate departure – including you dear ones life, your money, your knowledge etc

I am going reveal one of the best and worst friend of mankind in my next post just guess if you can. It will be a surprise

I have undergone these many a times but I discovered that only one thing that changes the life is “YOU” yes that is you nobody else.

You may be thinking what is this, how can this be possible and many more things you think as possibilities. But fact remains same it is YOU who matters no body else. Because its your life and only you can think about your self from your angle everyone else think about you in their angle rather than from yours so its you who matters not anyone else, not even your wife or parents or kids.

Don’t ask me that “it means wife/ husband, parents, kids are of no consequence”. Who told that they are of no consequence in your life, they are all having their own limits and so they have limited effect on you. You life depends on how “YOU” take them rather than what they have done to YOU.

So if you want life to be vibrant, joyful, lively then change your mind set and see difference in your life. Wait for me in next post, I will show you how simple it is to change the mind set and become happier than what you are.

Lady cannot be = Gentleman

just see how the words are written, I could have written it as lady = gentleman, true or false. But I have not written the statement with a ? to ignite the self within you. You may be lady or gentleman but will have your own opinion for this question, but my intention is to say what I felt rather then creating a controversy.

Here we go “how to maximize happiness by Killing gender bias”

So many time a male think he is superior to female by mere fact that he has more musculature because of testosterone hormone. Each and every gov tries to prove both are equal, but fails at grassroots level because of the teachings a child receive from his or her elders , teachers, seniors and off course the great society. Who ever may claim anything there is still a stigma of gender bias left over in most of the societies., it may be varying in the level of bias.

Why we do so?

May be because we are seeing and learning things which are shown to us and then try to analyze the situation on what we learn rather than a neutral analyzing system. Don’t ask me here that “means all decisions are biased due to what we learned in past”. In one way that’s the fact, so if with the things learned in past acts an catalyst to your thinking force to move you towards the neutral position of gender bias then you can think you learned and learning the correct things.

I will bore you, just imagine you have 3 colleagues how are ladies in a working station where ten people work. You are a male, so effectively (if you remain neutral) you have 6 on male side and three on female side. If you are able to reciprocate to male as a friend without love and lust then you have 66% on your side, and if you behave same with ladies then you have 99 to 100% on your side, which is very unlikely. So be neutral in treating people as far as gender is considered, then you will hardly have any blocks or rough surface in working station and that gives to so much time to operate or work at working station you will hardly require extra time to finish your job. Once you finished your job then you have got good amount of time to spend with family and friends.

If you follow the zero gender bias even at home and public places you will be leveraging many things that make you happier and more productive than ever. Think about it before doing gender bias again.

Thanks for reading, I know it may not be very clear what I expressed here but if you use your common sense to analyze the fact with neutral mind you will understand what I meant.

Here you and I should actually introspect ourselves. Why? because its a fact that we both cannot say NO to, see everyone knows that when there are changes in any setting let it be life or profession or anything for that matter will create at least few minutes to days what is known as “Change effect”. Means due to change in routine matters some of your life or professional works will be hampered and then settles.

Most of us take this initial part of the changing process and think that’s the end of it”, but we are not ready to accept that only changes make this life lively. If any change properly analyzed, each change in life or profession brought some good thing into this world (this is an unwritten law of nature – changes should bring in good things. I can show you positive aspect of any thing that has happened let it be even a natural disaster or man made disaster).

So that proves that ” CHANGE IS A RULE” you accept it or not, if you do you live happily if not you think more of negative things. This is why we think more of negativity than positivity.

See you back here with more experience and success failure and plans.