It is a very basic question which is still a question to most of us even of after so many years of life experience. Every one of us has some extra with in us – you may argue that, but the fact will never change. If you ever thought why you think differently than your brother sister or for that matter parents from whom you have learnt the basic nature of life and still practicing the life at least in basic mode same as your parents.
You may say – I never liked the way my elders lived there life at home, that’s why I am staying separate. But if you analyze it properly you learnt the way of life as you parents thought you but you as an individual felt that’s not the correct way so moved away form that. Means your experience or in scientific language learned reflexes says that the mode of life you experienced needs change so you do the things differently or in different direction. so you are doing it that way you want.
So you understood your self in your childhood in a subconscious state but never understood your self in a conscious state as an adult that’s the major factor for your failure to understand your self. It may look small for you at this moment but that’s not the end of the story; its the beginning for the sad story where you live your every day life in sorrow and fail to communicate to the beautiful world that your also beautiful creation of god as others are.
This argument never ends but I will try to write how to put effort to understand your self shortly in this blog. Till then take care.