You may say – I never liked the way my elders lived there life at home, that’s why I am staying separate. But if you analyze it properly you learnt the way of life as you parents thought you but you as an individual felt that’s not the correct way so moved away form that. Means your experience or in scientific language learned reflexes says that the mode of life you experienced needs change so you do the things differently or in different direction. so you are doing it that way you want.

So you understood your self in your childhood in a subconscious state but never understood your self in a conscious state as an adult that’s the major factor for your failure to understand your self. It may look small for you at this moment but that’s not the end of the story; its the beginning for the sad story where you live your every day life in sorrow and fail to communicate to the beautiful world that your also beautiful creation of god as others are.

This argument never ends but I will try to write how to put effort to understand your self shortly in this blog. Till then take care.

Most of don’t know when lost or losing because we don’t know how we gained it. If we start analyzing what we can do about it first thing to do is analyze your life and jot down your strong points in life along with weak points. Once you have done that you know how you built that strong point and why it has became your strong point and same way weak points.

Most of the time it is because we have knowledge of the strong points and practicing them and reverse is true with weak points. But here is a catch even with strong points sometimes we have lost confidence, that’s because we the situation was stronger than our skill and commitment. If we get them back on track half the battle is won. So get ready to get back your lost pride with confidence.

First of all what is confidence?

Literally speaking means

1)    Trust or faith in a person or thing.

2)    A trusting relationship: I took them into my confidence.

3)

(a) That which is confided; a secret: A friend does not betray confidences.

(b) A feeling of assurance that a confidant will keep a secret: I am telling you this in strict confidence.

4)    A feeling of assurance, especially of self-assurance.

5)    The state or quality of being certain: I have every confidence in your ability to succeed

Practically Its all about believing in ones own ability and achieving the targets with those abilities. This is what we lose when we lose confidence. But the

Question is why, why we are so fragile in life?

We are used to achieving targets easily without much work and whole system makes even a confident person in the same way by providing poor training and easy

options. If this is the way the system then most us are vulnerable to losing confidence.So for a healthy society system should make arrangements for

personality development in which confidence is integral part.

We will see next post how to stop losing it

You know the answer? yes or no, what ever it is – we fear to fail because we have been grilled by our parents , guardians or seniors that failure is the most shameful thing to happen in our life. But actually it is not.

Don’t think me as crazy, I am telling you by experience. This is a fact and you will be surprised to know that most successful persons were almost thrown out by society as failures. Yes you show me one successful person who built his or her life without an episode of failure, if you show me I agree that failure is not required to achieve success.

Let me remind you while showing me the person who has achieved success without failure don’t show me how is supported by whole world to carry on the work and failure has been linked others and success is attached to that successful human.

I am a professional and I know what is failure and also know how “the fear of failure kills YOU”. I can show you practically happening everywhere on this earth, so lesson learnt is; don’t bother about self pride,  failure,  others comments and future instability, if you do you will lose today’s stability.

I hope I made my point clear. If you need simple formula for crisis management then read this here. Good Luck see you with more valuable posts.