Apr 29th 07
Posted by Sreenivasa in Don't Ignore
Life is dull, life is boring, monotonous life is so boring and so on is the usual cribbing of many in life. But ultimately one thing remains unanswered there are so many people on this earth who feel is life evergreen and vibrant and goes on and on. They even enjoy their life to max and they are never bothered about the disgusting thinking of dull life. Why this dichotomy in life? Have you ever thought about this? If not think today and think about this to change the way you live your life.
I have undergone these many a times but I discovered that only one thing that changes the life is “YOU” yes that is you nobody else.
You may be thinking what is this, how can this be possible and many more things you think as possibilities. But fact remains same it is YOU who matters no body else. Because its your life and only you can think about your self from your angle everyone else think about you in their angle rather than from yours so its you who matters not anyone else, not even your wife or parents or kids.
Don’t ask me that “it means wife/ husband, parents, kids are of no consequence”. Who told that they are of no consequence in your life, they are all having their own limits and so they have limited effect on you. You life depends on how “YOU” take them rather than what they have done to YOU.
So if you want life to be vibrant, joyful, lively then change your mind set and see difference in your life. Wait for me in next post, I will show you how simple it is to change the mind set and become happier than what you are.
Apr 26th 07
Posted by Sreenivasa in Don't Ignore
Yes last time I spoke about the friendship in a negative aspect, but this time I am talking to you in an positive aspect of the same topic. You may be one of them who have lot of friends and using your time to keep up your friendship intact by doing one or the other thing for them. But have you ever thought how much time you are using to keep up your friendship? Do you thing the amount of time and energy (I an not even talking about money) spent on this is worth or you don’t know?
Then see here how you can maximize the things and save much more time and energy.
You have to first take a notepad and pen/ pencil of noting purpose. List your friends in your first column. Next column make a point to list number of hours you use for the friends against each name of first column. Third column list the important events you missed for friend or not committing your time family at the same time. Now the important column, list out the friendship motto you have with the friend you spend time.
Just four columns to analyze but you make a fifth column for action. What is this action? This is the most important aspect of this whole exercise. Once you have written the list of friends and the time spent against each and loss or potential loss you had due the same, you have to decide first the loss and spent time are worth what it is or a loss.
Once you decide that has been a loss then this is time for redefining your friendship. How to redefine friendship? Its easy and at the same time difficult. Say you have a so called friend at office and you think that he or she is essential for you work to go smoothly, so made a friendship and spending time. But now you decide whether is the person who is the cause for the loss really worth the time you have spent. Because most of the times you work is specified and limited by law and rules of any organization, but we think that we have been burdened so takes others help and then we think they are essential for our work. In other words first redefine your work and cut the helps you require and make a trial to work independently. If you succeed to do it then you don’t require help so it becomes easy to you redefine the friendship and more fruitful days are spent with the friends worth your time, most important friends will be your family members. Think about this and take action and enjoy more time with your true friends.
See you soon with more experience and helpful tips.
Apr 18th 07
Posted by Sreenivasa in Don't Ignore
Why do we want to make friends?
“What idiotic question”, if we think so then we are fools, why you know? Because we don’t know actually why we are making friendship. This is an absolute truth which most of us deny. If you analyze the friendships you are having then it looks totally different than what you are managing it as.
I can prove this to you repeatedly, in your life.
Don’t think that I am speaking about some rubbish topic here; this is one of the most important aspect of life. This can save lot of energy and time for you if you can apply it from today. To start with I would like to tell you how we are not making correct friends, because we don’t know why we are making friends.
See a boy making a friendship with a girl who is his neighbor or classmate has a basic motto that is she is near to him so interaction is almost daily basis so likes keeping the communication free so that while expressing he can express freely. But this may not be 100% true. This as a boy or as a girl you might have experienced. Here I am not telling that every have a friendship going have a second motto which is unwarranted, but fact is this friendship with subconscious motto going to cost you time and energy more that what is required until unless you consciously kill the subconscious motto of friendship.
If some body is telling that they think friendship is all about accepting “a friend as he or she is” rather than asking for modification, then I call it as bullshit as that will be an ideal situation which you can see hardly on this mother earth.
Wait for my next post where I would like to tell you how to maximize time and energy by redefining the friendship. Till then good-bye.
